I was really battling old patterns and around date 5 was asking myself “is this really for me?”
The answer was yes, yes I am. I was just so used to a nervous system that was about the chase and the dopamine. Sophie is not my usual “type” but was making/makes me feel safe, cared for, and calm which is so against what my nervous system is used to in early dating days.
I am so glad I really listened to Randi Crowe-Holley and Anwar White’s voices in my head telling me to pay attention to how they made me feel. I’m a happy girl!

Thank you!! 🙂 I’ve got a lot 😂
1. learning to be secure enough in myself to know I would be okay no matter the outcome with any man. I had multiple “false starts” but I think it was critical I experienced those to see every time (a) I survived and (b) there were more high quality men that came along down the line. Abundance vs scarcity mindset
2. 1 on 1’s with Anwar—I felt really seen by Anwar in this sessions and he often would tell me something I needed to hear/an uncomfortable truth that led to the most internal growth.
3. Pacing—definitely had my ebbs and flows of feeling defeated vs feeling energized. Taking breaks when I needed them and then getting back out there helped make dating sustainable long term.
4. Realizing that (the right) men respond positively to boundaries
5. Vulnerability took me a minute to understand but with time I really grasped it as expressing your feelings, whatever they are, and expressing them with regularity. I really feel like this is the superpower that bonds us to men, and other people in our life. This also helped me leaps and bounds with certain family members.
So thankful for this amazing group of women and the encouragement you bring each other. Thank you Anwar and Shoya for really helping me do the inner work!!

my biggest take way was to trust the process and trust myself. This program does work if you put in the work!

I would say :
Trust the process 🙌🏾
You will be scared, cry, discourage yourself, then you start to focus on yourself and detach from the rest.
And one day without realizing it : You GYG 🤭.
Thank you Anwar for your support ❤️

there are so many takeaways. When I started this program, I hated dating. Learning how to funnel and practicing my boundaries helped me to stop approaching dating from a scarcity mindset. The first BOLs felt difficult, but once I got used to really being clear on what I was going to put up with, and what I wasn’t, I started being presented with better situations and men who could meet my standards. I also gained clarity on the type of man I want to be with long-term. I’ve definitely been guilty of dating for a prom date as opposed to a partner, but as I step into this new relationship, I feel really great about who he is, how he treats me, and our communication.  He respects my boundaries, he shows up with joy and consistency, he always wants to prioritize my happiness. I realize that, even though I was a main character in all the other areas of my life, I was playing small in my love life. Now I feel more myself. It’s also really healing to have a relationship that affirms me being the boldest version of me. I’m so grateful for this experience! Thanks everyone for your support.

1) Boundaries are both to keep me safe and the road map to teach people how to best love me 2) I get everything I ask for. Continue to dream and ask big 3) Seek what my soul wants for me, not what society wants for me 4) I did the best I could on my life’s journey, in relationships, with the information I had. Forgive myself and the teachers who taught me. 5) Trust God and do everything Anwar says. They don’t miss 😂 6) The work is just beginning 😩