This program has been transformative for my self-discovery journey! Investing in yourself can truly open unexpected doors. The biggest takeaway for me has been the power of self-investment. Through this program, I learned to prioritize self-care, set healthy boundaries, and embrace my identity.Another key lesson is the importance of staying curious. Curiosity allows me to approach life with an open mind and a willingness to learn and grow. It helps me connect with others on a deeper level by fostering empathy and understanding. I’m so grateful for this program. The journey of self-discovery is never-ending, and I’m excited to see what new things I learn about myself and the world around me!

Follow the funnel boundaries exactly. Trust the funnel and let it work for you. It will teach you to connect more to your heart and spend less time in your head and overthinking.
Use the apps. They provide invaluable practice. But also go outside and meet people, men and women. Smile with teeth. Open the space.
Set boundaries with everyone, practice vulnerability, stay in your feminine energy, and use your emotion wheel.
Be patient. The season of despair will show up around month three but you will make your way out.
Be liberal with your swiping. Other than fakes or ENM types, I swiped on pretty much everyone who was a 5 or above. The funnel will weed 99 percent of everyone out.
Date all kinds of people. You will learn a lot about yourself. Have fun with it and crack yourself up. Take screenshots of all the app craziness and share it.
If you screw up (and you will) it’s not the end of the world. I had to heal from my childhood wounds of striving to be perfect. Learn from your mistakes. They are some of the best lessons.
Follow Anwar’s advice implicitly. Even when it doesn’t make sense to you. He’s an (experienced) genius.
Your guy will not come in the package you expect but he will be exactly what you need him to be. You literally can’t say or do anything to screw up or chase him away.
Embrace the GYG community. Your support and insight has been very healing and helpful. We heal best in Community. Keep your cameras on during Tuesday tea and Thursday Q&A and interact, even when you feel like a hot mess. It will help you feel more connected.
Upgrade to VIP if you can. I did a lot of work on my own but Coach Shoya and Coach Anwar pushed me over the edge towards success.
Do the inner work. Go all in. Go deep. It will pay off in the end.
Find an accountability partner in the group and join the regional groups. Join the Over 50 group chat if you’re “seasoned.”

key takeaways on getting into this relationship was talking my shit and speaking up about my boundaries and preferences each and every time – specifically not just physical safety boundaries which came easy to me in the program – but being able to expand that to all of my boundaries and preferences and letting my partner show up for me again and again and again in the way I preferred. Before I had a bad habit of being “cute and mute” which led me to being disappointed often by those who couldn’t read my mind! not anymore! Thank you Anwar and Shoya!

definitely that I can approach dating from a more empowered place. From BOLs to stating my preferences, to having and staying true to my boundaries, I get to chose versus just being chosen. The funnel also helped immensely with weeding out people who didn’t respect my boundaries.

Some of my biggest takeaways:
1. Trust the process, no matter how intimidating or unnatural it may feel. Every step and assignment is intentional and has a purpose.
2. It was crucial for me to check my ego at the door throughout the dating program and process.
3. Be open to dating everyone! If I had continued to be hyper-focused on dating black men, I wouldn’t have been able to keep my dating momentum. In 2 1/2 months, only TWO black men got through the initial funnel.
4. Asking others for their “highs and lows” of the day was an organic way for me to practice vulnerability. Even today, I use this with my guy and my direct reports at work. I’ve found most people to be into it, and they began asking me for highs and lows without being prompted!
5. Telling close friends about my participation in the GYG program helped with my feelings of shame about previous toxic relationships. Both my single and married friends were fascinated by the program and opened up about their dating snafus and regrets. It helped show me I am not alone and reinforced that no one has taught us how to date.