Follow the funnel boundaries exactly. Trust the funnel and let it work for you. It will teach you to connect more to your heart and spend less time in your head and overthinking.
Use the apps. They provide invaluable practice. But also go outside and meet people, men and women. Smile with teeth. Open the space.
Set boundaries with everyone, practice vulnerability, stay in your feminine energy, and use your emotion wheel.
Be patient. The season of despair will show up around month three but you will make your way out.
Be liberal with your swiping. Other than fakes or ENM types, I swiped on pretty much everyone who was a 5 or above. The funnel will weed 99 percent of everyone out.
Date all kinds of people. You will learn a lot about yourself. Have fun with it and crack yourself up. Take screenshots of all the app craziness and share it.
If you screw up (and you will) it’s not the end of the world. I had to heal from my childhood wounds of striving to be perfect. Learn from your mistakes. They are some of the best lessons.
Follow Anwar’s advice implicitly. Even when it doesn’t make sense to you. He’s an (experienced) genius.
Your guy will not come in the package you expect but he will be exactly what you need him to be. You literally can’t say or do anything to screw up or chase him away.
Embrace the GYG community. Your support and insight has been very healing and helpful. We heal best in Community. Keep your cameras on during Tuesday tea and Thursday Q&A and interact, even when you feel like a hot mess. It will help you feel more connected.
Upgrade to VIP if you can. I did a lot of work on my own but Coach Shoya and Coach Anwar pushed me over the edge towards success.
Do the inner work. Go all in. Go deep. It will pay off in the end.
Find an accountability partner in the group and join the regional groups. Join the Over 50 group chat if you’re “seasoned.”

First, thank you so much because with you and The GYG community, the deep work wouldn’t have happened and I wouldn’t have know how to strategize and even what I deserved. When I finally met my guy, it was so clear that he was really my guy from our first conversation. The funnel works wonders! Please use the funnel ladies. Also, please know that there are men out there who will be willing to treat like the queen you are, respect you, be kind to you, be your cheerleader, etc. They are out there and I know sometimes it feels hopeless, but try to keep the faith. Also, I had to internalize for myself that I deserved to be treated well. That was some thing that I don’t think I ever had really accepted until I started the program last January. I also gave myself lots of breaks from the app when I felt burnt out. I felt like that was very necessary. I also recognized how I became more vulnerable on dates and it just became easier and easier to share my thoughts so that when I met my guy , and my guy was also the kind of guy that shared his thoughts, we just vibed. I would not have been ready for him a year ago. Sending all of you ladies and Anwar, so much love! My therapist always says that the world is overpopulated lol and there are billions of people in the world there are definitely more than several guys out there for you!

so many.. but I took your advice to get serious about what I really wanted, to show vulnerability, and to take things slow.

there are so many takeaways. When I started this program, I hated dating. Learning how to funnel and practicing my boundaries helped me to stop approaching dating from a scarcity mindset. The first BOLs felt difficult, but once I got used to really being clear on what I was going to put up with, and what I wasn’t, I started being presented with better situations and men who could meet my standards. I also gained clarity on the type of man I want to be with long-term. I’ve definitely been guilty of dating for a prom date as opposed to a partner, but as I step into this new relationship, I feel really great about who he is, how he treats me, and our communication.  He respects my boundaries, he shows up with joy and consistency, he always wants to prioritize my happiness. I realize that, even though I was a main character in all the other areas of my life, I was playing small in my love life. Now I feel more myself. It’s also really healing to have a relationship that affirms me being the boldest version of me. I’m so grateful for this experience! Thanks everyone for your support.

1) The funnel works
2) A man who prioritizes you will have no problem moving the conversation to email (if that’s what you want/need)
3) “Would my future husband do this?” or “Would my future husband treat me this way?” is such a simple yet consistently dependable sanity check
4) Often times that trigger you may experience is about you and not your partner/gold medalist (que “The Model”‼️)
5) All things work together for our highest and best good… the guy(s) you BOL are not the be all, end all. You have options sis.
So many more, but I’ll leave these here for now ☺️