1) Boundaries are both to keep me safe and the road map to teach people how to best love me 2) I get everything I ask for. Continue to dream and ask big 3) Seek what my soul wants for me, not what society wants for me 4) I did the best I could on my life’s journey, in relationships, with the information I had. Forgive myself and the teachers who taught me. 5) Trust God and do everything Anwar says. They don’t miss 😂 6) The work is just beginning 😩

Two things that Coach Anwar White said to me early in the process resonated.
1.) “You are many guy’s dream girl.” And the little pageant girl in me needed to hear that! This community of amazing women has made me realize that my many insecurities in my appearance, singleness, dating, etc. have little to do with me and more to do with the fact that I simply hadn’t met my person.
Hearing from other women encountering the same issues was comforting. So for any ladies reading this, know that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.
2.) “Be who you are so the person looking for you can find you.” [paraphrased] As a people-pleaser (southerner, only daughter, Christian upbringing) I have been very good at prioritizing other people’s needs and being a chameleon in relationships.
True love in its purest form is born from a spirit of complete honesty and showing up as authentically yourself. Once I realized that, I started being in my MCE all the time and so when Corey expressed his affections, I have faith that he adores the real me. Because that’s the only “me” he’s ever met!
Parting advice– stay consistent, listen to the coaches, follow the program, and be your authentic self. Huge thanks also to Coach Shoya Collins for her infinite wisdom and super power of empathy. ❤️

some of my my biggest takeaways are to trust the process. Knowing and setting your boundaries is key. The inner work on familial relationships was a huge breakthrough for me. The biggest single takeaway for me is knowing my relationship needs. It was critical for me, before the program I was dating without truly knowing what I needed.

The journey towards getting my guy began on our very first call. I was hanging on to a man who was ill-suited to me, simply because I thought there would be no one better if we broke up. This was a pattern that stood in my way for most of my adult life. Coach Anwar helped me to get over the scarcity mindset, break up with the ex, and allow space for something new. Much to my surprise, there were a lot of interesting men, even in my mid-forties, even in San Francisco! I met my beau in vivo, through a mutual friend. The GYG program provided an excellent framework to evaluate our budding relationship, and I found that my guy sailed through the funnel quite naturally. I feel at peace and excited about what is to come. Ladies, I’m a believer, the change begins within!

there are so many takeaways. When I started this program, I hated dating. Learning how to funnel and practicing my boundaries helped me to stop approaching dating from a scarcity mindset. The first BOLs felt difficult, but once I got used to really being clear on what I was going to put up with, and what I wasn’t, I started being presented with better situations and men who could meet my standards. I also gained clarity on the type of man I want to be with long-term. I’ve definitely been guilty of dating for a prom date as opposed to a partner, but as I step into this new relationship, I feel really great about who he is, how he treats me, and our communication.  He respects my boundaries, he shows up with joy and consistency, he always wants to prioritize my happiness. I realize that, even though I was a main character in all the other areas of my life, I was playing small in my love life. Now I feel more myself. It’s also really healing to have a relationship that affirms me being the boldest version of me. I’m so grateful for this experience! Thanks everyone for your support.

the lessons in boundaries and vulnerability were LOUD loud! Everyone is right it’s more than about getting the guy…you do some major inner work in here! That is the only reason I got as far as I did and will be the foundation in how I show up in my relationship going forward! ❤️🥰