Banter kept convos light and fun in the app, email and eventually all conversations. We were able to connect via our sense of humor and love of sports
* Feel free to still leverage your email funnel when you feel like you need it or want to switch things up! I got burnt out on the volume of text funnel guys not making it to phone dates and switched back to email for a few weeks which is where he entered the funnel.
* Don’t shy away from repeating doing the worksheets over time! Doing the relationship needs worksheet this second time around, I realized I’d missed how much of a top need respect of boundaries and dependability/reliability were for me growing up whereas the first time I believe I scored attention and feeling cherished the highest
* Talking my ish – throughout our dates I’d share things I was proud of or happy about, like completing 75Hard. I showed up as my full self and one of our dates actually ended up being a workout date since he knew I was doing 2 a days at that time.
* Patience (my Achilles heel) – the first time I went through the program I got my guy and it ended up being a false start for a few reasons. I started back swiping in Jan of 2024

Thank you everyone 🥹 Sincerely, I feel so fortunate to be on this journey with a whole community. You all made me feel brave🥹
Anwar White, I don’t know if I can narrow it down to one takeaway 😭
1) Email is bae
2) It’s like IKEA, through em in the cart and let the funnel funnel!
3) “You don’t know who you are yet, so you don’t know who you need”. This advice from Coach Anwar keeps reminding me to stay open and curious when I want to default back to my old thinking.
4) “Dating isn’t personal, you don’t know them and they don’t know you!” Another Coach Anwar quote!
5) If it feels familiar you are on the wrong path😂 the right one feels foreign and weird at times, but the coaches are right here to help us to process the newness of it all❤️

thank you! Could literally not have done it without you! My takeaways are many but especially: 1) Trust the coaches, they really know what they are doing! 2) Don’t trust the story in your head—challenge and flip thoughts using the intentional mindset model. It was always so much easier for me to cut a guy off quickly for (perceived) slights. 3) Lead with vulnerability even when it feels uncomfortable. There is a reason why the coaches ask how you were vulnerable in dates and in conversation. The right guy will hold a safe space for you and respond in kind. It is femininity at its core!

Anwar is great!! He tells you what you need to hear and gets you to think about things that are beyond the surface. He’s great with follow up too. He cares about his clients.

Follow the funnel boundaries exactly. Trust the funnel and let it work for you. It will teach you to connect more to your heart and spend less time in your head and overthinking.
Use the apps. They provide invaluable practice. But also go outside and meet people, men and women. Smile with teeth. Open the space.
Set boundaries with everyone, practice vulnerability, stay in your feminine energy, and use your emotion wheel.
Be patient. The season of despair will show up around month three but you will make your way out.
Be liberal with your swiping. Other than fakes or ENM types, I swiped on pretty much everyone who was a 5 or above. The funnel will weed 99 percent of everyone out.
Date all kinds of people. You will learn a lot about yourself. Have fun with it and crack yourself up. Take screenshots of all the app craziness and share it.
If you screw up (and you will) it’s not the end of the world. I had to heal from my childhood wounds of striving to be perfect. Learn from your mistakes. They are some of the best lessons.
Follow Anwar’s advice implicitly. Even when it doesn’t make sense to you. He’s an (experienced) genius.
Your guy will not come in the package you expect but he will be exactly what you need him to be. You literally can’t say or do anything to screw up or chase him away.
Embrace the GYG community. Your support and insight has been very healing and helpful. We heal best in Community. Keep your cameras on during Tuesday tea and Thursday Q&A and interact, even when you feel like a hot mess. It will help you feel more connected.
Upgrade to VIP if you can. I did a lot of work on my own but Coach Shoya and Coach Anwar pushed me over the edge towards success.
Do the inner work. Go all in. Go deep. It will pay off in the end.
Find an accountability partner in the group and join the regional groups. Join the Over 50 group chat if you’re “seasoned.”

there are so many takeaways. When I started this program, I hated dating. Learning how to funnel and practicing my boundaries helped me to stop approaching dating from a scarcity mindset. The first BOLs felt difficult, but once I got used to really being clear on what I was going to put up with, and what I wasn’t, I started being presented with better situations and men who could meet my standards. I also gained clarity on the type of man I want to be with long-term. I’ve definitely been guilty of dating for a prom date as opposed to a partner, but as I step into this new relationship, I feel really great about who he is, how he treats me, and our communication.  He respects my boundaries, he shows up with joy and consistency, he always wants to prioritize my happiness. I realize that, even though I was a main character in all the other areas of my life, I was playing small in my love life. Now I feel more myself. It’s also really healing to have a relationship that affirms me being the boldest version of me. I’m so grateful for this experience! Thanks everyone for your support.