Banter kept convos light and fun in the app, email and eventually all conversations. We were able to connect via our sense of humor and love of sports
* Feel free to still leverage your email funnel when you feel like you need it or want to switch things up! I got burnt out on the volume of text funnel guys not making it to phone dates and switched back to email for a few weeks which is where he entered the funnel.
* Don’t shy away from repeating doing the worksheets over time! Doing the relationship needs worksheet this second time around, I realized I’d missed how much of a top need respect of boundaries and dependability/reliability were for me growing up whereas the first time I believe I scored attention and feeling cherished the highest
* Talking my ish – throughout our dates I’d share things I was proud of or happy about, like completing 75Hard. I showed up as my full self and one of our dates actually ended up being a workout date since he knew I was doing 2 a days at that time.
* Patience (my Achilles heel) – the first time I went through the program I got my guy and it ended up being a false start for a few reasons. I started back swiping in Jan of 2024

Hi Coach, I had a lot of big takeaways:
1) trust the process! The coaches are right that there is a way this thing is supposed to flow and past medalists fell off after some time. When the coaches say BOL, talk through it with them but BOL. You want to see consistency from these men.
2) Vulnerability and Boundaries are key!! I finally got to a point in this program where I incorporated it every day with everything. I’d get up and say who’s getting my boundary today and I used my emotion wheel everyday. I made that a habit before I met my guy.
3) Banter is ESSENTIAL! Coach Anwar, when you did the class on banter, it brought out my playful side and really changed the potential HR pitfall that I could have easily fallen into. And it really builds chemistry and attraction.
4) Remain open! I know a lot of us have our types but cross examine what you think your type is. It’s probably based on something that hasn’t been and won’t serve you. I had to keep in mind that this is for fun and if I’m not enjoying it, then I move on.
5) You are and have always been a queen! Queens don’t perform and don’t subscribe to scarcity mindset. This program will get you there. See #1 above.
Thank you Coaches and GYG ladies for your support!

so many.. but I took your advice to get serious about what I really wanted, to show vulnerability, and to take things slow.

Thank you!! 🙂 I’ve got a lot 😂
1. learning to be secure enough in myself to know I would be okay no matter the outcome with any man. I had multiple “false starts” but I think it was critical I experienced those to see every time (a) I survived and (b) there were more high quality men that came along down the line. Abundance vs scarcity mindset
2. 1 on 1’s with Anwar—I felt really seen by Anwar in this sessions and he often would tell me something I needed to hear/an uncomfortable truth that led to the most internal growth.
3. Pacing—definitely had my ebbs and flows of feeling defeated vs feeling energized. Taking breaks when I needed them and then getting back out there helped make dating sustainable long term.
4. Realizing that (the right) men respond positively to boundaries
5. Vulnerability took me a minute to understand but with time I really grasped it as expressing your feelings, whatever they are, and expressing them with regularity. I really feel like this is the superpower that bonds us to men, and other people in our life. This also helped me leaps and bounds with certain family members.
So thankful for this amazing group of women and the encouragement you bring each other. Thank you Anwar and Shoya for really helping me do the inner work!!

Trusting the process is probably the biggest takeaway. And for me personally, one of my favorite lines that I got from this program is “you can never say the wrong thing to the right person.” It’s pushed me to be more comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings knowing that I will feel safe with the right person. I also take away that this will continue to be a journey and that I have to be conscious about being vulnerable.

1) Boundaries are both to keep me safe and the road map to teach people how to best love me 2) I get everything I ask for. Continue to dream and ask big 3) Seek what my soul wants for me, not what society wants for me 4) I did the best I could on my life’s journey, in relationships, with the information I had. Forgive myself and the teachers who taught me. 5) Trust God and do everything Anwar says. They don’t miss 😂 6) The work is just beginning 😩